Help at Home
Help at home includes home care support services include maintenance services such as assistance with personal needs, including primary ADLs (bathing dressing, grooming, toileting, transferring and walking), and secondary ADLs (light housekeeping, meal preparation, medication management, shopping and laundry). Some help at home providers also offer counseling and future planning assistance.
What Should I Ask a Help at Home Provider?
What Should I have included in the written Help at Home Provider Agreement?
- The help at home provider services that will be performed;
- When the home care workers will visit the home, and approximately how long the visits will be (or for how many hours, if the visits are arranged in shifts);
- All of the costs involved with receiving the help at home services;
- The costs covered by insurance
- The arrangements for payment. Both you and the provider should sign the agreement.
READERS of Time magazine might have felt something akin to déjà vu when they glanced at the cover of the June 11 issue. “How to Die,” it read. “What I Learned from the Last Days of My Mom and Dad.”
Late last month, in an eerie coincidence, New York magazine hit the newsstands with a cover that read: “Mom, I Love You. I Also Wish You Were Dead. And I Expect You Do, Too.”
And both seemed surprisingly reminiscent of a much-talked-about piece that ran in Atlantic magazine last March. That essay, a review of three recently published books about old age, was subtitled: “Why Caring for My Aging Father Has Me Wishing He Would Die.”
In all three cases, the authors of those articles — Joe Klein, Michael Wolff and Sandra Tsing Loh, respectively — wrote about the wrenching experience of seeing their parents grow old and infirm (and, in Mr. Klein’s case, die) as a way to look at the larger issue of care of the elderly in this country.
But it also gave them a chance for ample self-reflection, an almost knee-jerk reaction for some in the baby boomer generation, for whom every life experience — marrying, having a child or growing old — seems worthy of magazine pieces, essays, blog posts and even doorstop-size books.
“We grieve in different ways, and my way, I guess, is to write about it,” Mr. Klein, 65, acknowledged in his Time piece. In the end, he wrote, the system “helped me through this passage toward my own maturity.”
For Mr. Wolff, 58, the often-painful process of caring for his aging mother provided something of a bonding moment with friends and colleagues.
“Like so many people in our fifties — in my experience almost everybody — I have a parent in an advanced stage of terminal breakdown,” he wrote in his New York magazine article. “It’s what my peers talk about: our parents’ horror show.”
In her review of books by Jane Gross, Gail Sheehy and Bernard Cooper, Ms. Loh, 50, coined a phrase to describe aging baby boomers swapping stories about their parents: elderschadenfreude. As defined by Ms. Loh, it is “the subtle frisson of the horror tale that always begins so simply (‘Mom slipped in the shower — at first she said it was nothing’) but makes listeners raise eyebrows, nod knowingly, begin microwaving popcorn. It is the secret pleasure of hearing about aging parents that are even more impossible than yours.”….
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